(n) One that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent.
No matter what society tells you, or even Christian culture, you are not a victim. You are not a victim of your family upbringing, of your past struggles, or of your present shortcomings. You are not a victim of the government, or the school system. You are not a victim of your body. You are not a victim of how your friends or family have treated you. You are not a victim to your feelings.
I don’t deny you may have had difficult events in your past, that may have affected you in negative ways. But that does not mean that they are an excuse for your actions today. You are not responsible for how others treat you, but the way that you respond is up to you. If you are in Christ, you are a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come (2 Cor 5:17-21). This means that your old self has died with Christ, along with its old way of responding, and its slavery to sin. You now have the power to overcome sin, because of the work that Christ has done on your behalf.
Let’s look at Romans 8 for a minute.
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36 As it is written:
“For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”
37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
Romans 8:35-37, emphasis added
Paul notes that it is in all the trials, that we are more than conquerors, not only when life is easy. In fact, it is the trials that make us more like Christ, and reveal the areas that still need change, not in the times of joy and success. We are therefore to give thanks in all circumstances, because God is sovereignly using them to accomplish His purposes in us.
If anyone had reason to have a victim mentality, it was Paul. But instead he responds to his beatings, shipwrecks, imprisonments, etc. with joy, because he has learned the secret of contentment, that he can do all things through Christ who strengthens him (Phil 4:13).
So rejoice. Don’t give in to self-pity for one second, for if you are in Christ, you are not a victim, you are a victor.
What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
Rise up on the strength of God and resolve to conquer!